It is no longer news that light skin actress Uche Ogbodo’s
marriage failed months ago, but she is for the first time opening up on why she
ended her marriage. She opened up to Vanguard, continue…
"My marriage was full of lies. I cannot tell you in
detail what those lies were, if that’s what you’re trying to make me do but it
was based on lies. It’s a pity it didn’t work out. I didn’t go into the
marriage to crash it. I wanted a family; I wanted a loving home and a loving
husband. That was why I went into it in the first place but as nature would
have it, I didn’t get any of those. I still thank God my head is intact."
Was it really a marriage?
It was a marriage but we didn’t do any wedding. We didn’t do
any court marriage or church wedding. We did nothing. We didn’t even do
traditional marriage but in my culture, there are many processes to getting
married and I did a few of those, so you can say I was married. In Igbo land,
there are rites you adhere to before you can say this is my wife and I did a
couple of them.
Why did you do the rites in secret?
You cannot do rites openly; it’s just a family thing, family
members only. It’s not a traditional wedding. If I had done traditional
wedding, I would definitely invite people. If I had done a white wedding, I
would have invited people. If I had done a court marriage, I would still have
invited people but it was just rites. I didn’t do anything the public needed to
know, so you can’t say I did any marriage in secret.
Did he cheat on you? What exactly did he do?
No, it’s not about women. Like I always say, you cannot
build a home on sinking sand. You need to build a home on a rock. What I mean
is that a marriage built on deceit and lies is no marriage at all. If you want
a solid marriage, it must be built on honesty and trustworthiness. If not, it’s
definitely going to crash. If it doesn’t crash today, it will crash tomorrow,
so the lies are my reasons.
When did you discover he was lying to you?
Well, it was good while it lasted; he was a good man to me.
I felt all I saw was all I was supposed to see but later when one thing led to
another and things started unfolding. I started finding out that everything was
not what it seemed. Every relationship, you have problems in-between, there is
no relationship that just goes on smoothly. In the process of friendship and
dating, we had issues that we resolved but when we took it to the next level we
just couldn’t hold it together. There are things you can hide as friends but as
married couple it is impossible because so many other things like families are
involved. As his girlfriend some things that were hidden were revealed when I
became his wife. What happened between me and my husband is between me and my husband.
We caused it, both of us caused it.
For how long were you guys together?
The marriage lasted barely a month before we started having
issues. We were having issues before I found out I was pregnant.
Are you planning to raise your child as a single mother?
When I don’t have a husband, I’m raising her alone. I can’t
throw my child away. It’s not her fault that the marriage didn’t work out, it’s
not her fault that I got pregnant, it’s not her fault that we didn’t take our
marriage seriously, so I’m going to raise her no matter what happens.
What attracted you to your husband before you married him?
I saw something in him that nobody had ever seen. I saw a
man that was a good man inside his heart. It’s not like when you’re looking at
him everything is perfect but I saw that deep down somewhere, there’s a good
man. Without the influence of society, he would have been different. I blame it
on society and I blame it on him. He allowed things to influence but he was
born a good man and I thought I could bring that goodness out in him. I thought
that I could change something and make it better. I tried but it didn’t work
out.
Was it completely his fault that your marriage crashed?
It’s our fault. We
shouldn’t have allowed our marriage to crash. I wouldn’t know my mistakes; he
would tell you my mistakes. Maybe I was a little too much to handle, maybe
that’s why but I wouldn’t know until he tells you his own side of the story.
Some people were saying you got into the marriage because of
money?
I didn’t get into the marriage because of money in the first
place. I got into the marriage because I wanted to be married and because I saw
something in him that I felt would work out for me later in life. I didn’t go
into it because of money; there were no millions to spend so it wasn’t about
money. I don’t care what people say. What matters is the truth and I try to be
very straightforward when I deal with people. So, it wasn’t about money because
there was none
Others are saying you left him because of his brain tumor?
He doesn’t have brain tumor. He was sick at the time, he had
issues but his sickness is not the reason why our marriage crashed. Money was
not the issue either. I would definitely know about his health status before I
would marry a man. I knew what I was going into, so how could I just leave a
man because he had a brain tumor? It’s funny You said he didn’t have a brain
tumor, what was really wrong with him? I cannot tell you, he would tell you. He
was sick, he was treated but it had nothing to do with the brain. He had
surgery but it was not brain tumor, it was not cancer, he was just sick and I
thank God that he’s alive. I don’t know why people just wake up and conclude
things out of the blue; you don’t know these people from Adam, you just read
about people and then you go and comment rubbish. You write rubbish to tear
people’s lives apart even when you know nothing about their issues.
Is he still in hospital?
He’s not in hospital; he has never been in the hospital. I
don’t know why that picture came up, that picture you saw online was taken like
last year December
Was your husband with you when you were pregnant?
No, he wasn’t. We were having issues, we weren’t together.
He didn’t see me pregnant for one day
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Hmmmm marriage
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