Actress, Lydia Forson has contributed to the criticisms
flying over President Muhammadu Buhari’s controversial comment that his wife,
Aisha Buhari ‘belongs to his kitchen and the other room.’ Continue reading…
Social media has been ablaze since President Buhari of Nigeria said his wife
belonged to the kitchen during a recent press conference with
the German chancellor Angela Merkel.
This was in response to his wife’s BBC interview where she
stated that she would campaign for
him only on condition.
The first lady’s comments, which many thought was
disrespectful to her husband, I believe was actually in support of his
presidency. After all dont they live together? So why would she publicly try to
humiliate him?
By saying she wouldn’t campaign for him if he didn’t fulfill
promises he’d made was her way of reassuring people
that she had faith in her husband enough to take that gamble.
It’s like saying I’ll walk the streets naked if I don’t
predict this election correctly, it’s a psychological trick we’ve all employed
many times to make a point.
And his response to her was an equal attempt at making light
her statements, only he indirectly exposed his own prejudice in the process.
But for the first time in a long while I’m not as offended
by these less than flattering comments President Buhari like many other men
made about a woman.
Maybe it’s because I’ve come to expect it as part of my
existence.
I know admitting this sort of suggest I’m giving up in a
way, but I’m only expressing how I feel at this very moment, I don’t know about tomorrow.
Today, however, I’m tired of fighting what seems like a
losing battle, and frustrated at constantly have to defend my reasons for doing
so.
So when the experts, activist, politicians, opinions leaders
etc weighed in on these controversial statements by expressing their
frustration, disappointment and for a few dismissing it as a harmless joke; I
decided to take a less than sentimental approach.
I believe the Nigerian president made those comments
thinking people would laugh along with him,why he thought a WOMAN like Angela Merkel would laugh
at that is beyond me.
A joke is only funny around people with shared interest or
similar sense of humour.
He chose the wrong place, wrong time and wrong audience.
He thought he was with his friends back home who shared his
sentiments and would understand his “what does she even know about serious issues”, joke; something
the privilege of his patriarchal society affords him.
By joking about his wife’s only place being the Kitchen and the now infamous “other room”, he dismissed her
role, importance and knowledge of the political arena and other “serious issues”.
I’m sure he wants to believe he loves and respects his wife, hence why
he’s dismissing this as a joke; but the proof is always in the pudding, and
this time, it didn’t taste as good as it looked.
But let’s talk more about this whole kitchen brouhaha and
why women, feminists, and all activists alike are so angry at this reference.
Let’s talk about the fact that in our haste to check him we
inadvertently fed into the negative connotation the KITCHEN has come to
represent.
But why though?
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